Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Having just two and a half hour of sleep didn't stop me from reading and surfing around before I conk after a long day in school. From reading and thinking, I'd like to blog abt some thoughts I'd gathered and would like to share.

I happen to read this blog abt a person who hv a broken family. Issues with her father. Parents divorced. Or seperated. I turned around and I see broken families all around me.. hmmm... I could hardly claim to be from a very closely bond family myself. But I am hardly alone.. Many of my friends have either parents divorced, seperated or still around and being a pain in the arse.

When I was young, the picture painted of families in my eyes are always rosy. not just mine.. but I genuinely thought that it's that way for everyone. I guess it's just how a kid thinks.. Everything in fantasy world. Perfect. Lovely. Very Snow White-ish. Cutey seven dwarfs.. Witches get pushed into stoves and melts etc.

As I grew older.. I see many people.. And I observed.. Then I feel that there are too many broken families around.. close ones around with divorced parents, people with dads they wish they could lose, daughters with mums who are incredibly irritating.. Parents who are too demanding, and parents who dun give a damn etc etc..

To me, child celebrity mums are devil incarnations! You look at celebs like Lindsay Lohan and point fingers at what a bitch/whore they are etc.. But they were once kids who had all the innocence in the world. But that money grubbing mum of hers had to push her into the world she is now in. A world of 'fake'-ness. Thus she has now graduated in that world.

Parents play a big role in how kids grow up to be. Be too harsh and you are disliked.. Be too lenient and you cordone. Balance is required. There is no one straight rule to it. It will always vary from people to people. Some people need encouragement and guidance to grow and improve. Some people like to be left alone. Some people need a kick up their ass before they do something about things.

Some people grow up wanting to emulate their parents. Their great career. their wonderful job. their love for life.. I am sad to say i did not have that route to take. I grew up trying to be positive.. and trying to make the best of what I have to achieve what I want to bewith the negative things of my life that I wished was more positive.

Why is this phenomenon of broken families so? Why is it becoming so common among friends and other people you heard about to be part of this broken-family group? It makes you wonder that while we're progressing as a human race, we're also losing touch with some things in our lives. The little things which which mattered. It's akin to moving forward two steps and slipping a step back at the same time..

I believe the reason for this is that we're too caught up with distractions in life and had forgotten, largely due to a lack of practice, how to love. Often, parents want to love but have tried the wrong way. Their mind are fixated and often not liberal. Stuff like ego, pride and traditions add to the complications.

Hmmmm... I do hope we will be able to do better in this area soon and not be too caught up with distractions in life.. We are humans. We feel. Robots don't. (I never liked robots.. Don't think I ever will..) Let's not be cold and metal.

*Ps: I do not think it will be easy to understand my feelings prompting this entry easily and definitely do not wish to be scrutinised in the case of any misinterpretations. Thank you for reading through this hideous amount of rambling of mine and do pardon my writing shortcomings.

Labels: feelings, love, melbourne, Pain

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